detached (2024)
by Christian Heymann

portfolio shortlisted call 'BLURRING THE LINES 2024', 2024

In adulthood, estrangement is a nightmare for both parents and children, arising either out of necessity or desperation. There are myriad reasons for this: divorce, new partners, or a death in the family. Statistical data shows that only half of these estrangements are eventually reconciled, with the mechanisms of reconciliation remaining largely unverified. My mother and I are estranged, both physically and emotionally. She, a former dancer from South America, resides in the rural province of Saarland and is deeply religious; I live in Hamburg and am not religious. My parents divorced when I was 15, and I stayed with my alcoholic father. She left Hamburg with her new partner. When my father passed away, it left a great void and many unanswered questions. My mother was too far away by then to offer much assistance. Years passed, and our relationship grew quieter; phone calls became brief, and the idea of meeting was scarcely mentioned. Now, my partner is expecting our first child, and I wonder what the future holds for us. This is an attempt to reclaim what has been lost. In the same way communities strive for inclusivity and reconciliation, my journey reflects a personal endeavor to bridge emotional divides and foster new connections. This narrative mirrors societal efforts to build more inclusive and supportive environments, emphasizing the universal importance of connection and understanding. As I navigate this transition, I am reminded of the broader human experience of seeking and finding common ground, and the profound impact it has on our collective well-being. This exploration is a testament to the power of change and the resilience required to rebuild relationships. Through my photography, I aim to capture not just the pain of estrangement, but also the hope and possibility of reconciliation. My work seeks to inspire others to reflect on their own relationships and consider the steps they might take towards healing and inclusivity, fostering a deeper understanding of the human condition and the essential nature of social connection. My journey is not just personal; it is a universal story of striving for a more inclusive and connected world. Through my lens, I hope to shed light on the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of reconciling differences, both within families and within society at large.


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